Internet Dating: For losers or just another legit avenue?

[Melodramatic]

What is your take on internet dating? Y'know, those match.com & e-harmony.com type of stuff. Some people say it's for desperate losers, but others have said that it is a legit avenue for finding that "soulmate" or "special person". But what do you honestly think of it? Would you (secretly/publicly) look down on somebody who joins in these sites in hopes of finding love? Discuss people!

[Bizz]

hey Dude

I known a couple finding the love in forum

2 years they are in couple and All is fine

[Snatcher42]

Ditto. My cousin and her husband of 5 years met on jdate.com. :P
He's pretty cool too.

[Nestonia]

yeah, i know people who have found themself with internet

[YCZ]

How can i vote with that many options....
And i think it is normal to date online they are not losers

[Le Fidèle]

all i can say is that,

Meeting or Dating online = BAD IDEA (defcon) :roll:

i'm not saying all internet dating is hopless, but i will say its promising.

[Draven]

Well, I also know a friend who found a companion via internet something like five years ago. they are still together and propably getting married soon..
I'll guess the whole internet dating thing fits to some people, but I personally wouldn't use those forums. :afro:

[Ned]

I think this depends on everybody. Their opinion on this one is relative. I, myself, find online dating useless, but I know a friend who does that very often and in fact he even has a girlfriend which he met online.

[Ludicrous Maximus]

1st answer for me, netdating is fun, but it's fake it's not the real world and it can't replace a real reliationship.

[Draven]

1st answer for me, netdating is fun, but it's fake it's not the real world and it can't replace a real reliationship.

Yeah, and there is those people who lie about themselfs in forums cause it's so easy to do..

[Ned]

Too bad that there are some people who mistakes internet dating with the real one. And about those fakes, it's not really true you know. Some of them are fakes, which I call them wannabes, others are telling the truth about themselves. :=D:

[Snatcher42]

1st answer for me, netdating is fun, but it's fake it's not the real world and it can't replace a real reliationship.

Yeah, and there is those people who lie about themselfs in forums cause it's so easy to do..
Melo was specifically asking about pay sites, though, like match.com & e-harmony.com. The goal of these services is to prevent lying (doing so violates their terms of service, which can land you in some deep doo doo... besides, not many people are willing to pay money just to fake) and have people meet in real life. I haven't used any of these, but I think they're a pretty good idea. I wouldn't recommend online dating outside such controlled arenas, however.

[Ned]

^ Now that is a good idea of getting rid of those pesty fakers. :D And it didn't cross my mind that online dating has a pay version too. :roll:

[Zoomer]

I'd have thought a whole online getting to know someone would be beneficial in some ways - looks would not be a factor until you met/exchanged pictures for instance, so it's based upon personalities.

Same goes for other things, sex isn't your main objective or even coming into it, and trying to impress/act like a dick isn't either - so you should get a more genuine, more honest, and more "warts and all" appraisal... as long as they don't lie.

I still wouldn't do it personally, but I can see why some do (apart from the obvious that they may just not have time/the courage to get out on their own to meet people, and lets face it - if you go out after 7pm these days, you're not likely to meet anything you'd get a decent convo out of anyways... music is too loud, too much drinking, and everyone just wanting to either fight or shag!

[Melodramatic]

Melo was specifically asking about pay sites, though, like match.com & e-harmony.com. The goal of these services is to prevent lying (doing so violates their terms of service, which can land you in some deep doo doo... besides, not many people are willing to pay money just to fake) and have people meet in real life. I haven't used any of these, but I think they're a pretty good idea. I wouldn't recommend online dating outside such controlled arenas, however.

Yes that was exactly what I meant, not on the forums! I do believe these sites have some form you fill up to really dissect your interests & intentions so yeah it's a safe arena for the most part.

Same goes for other things, sex isn't your main objective or even coming into it, and trying to impress/act like a dick isn't either - so you should get a more genuine, more honest, and more "warts and all" appraisal... as long as they don't lie.

I still wouldn't do it personally, but I can see why some do (apart from the obvious that they may just not have time/the courage to get out on their own to meet people, and lets face it - if you go out after 7pm these days, you're not likely to meet anything you'd get a decent convo out of anyways... music is too loud, too much drinking, and everyone just wanting to either fight or shag!

That's exactly it. There are sex sites to sign up for for some shagging & there are sites like e-harmony & match that aim for something more decent & deeper. But the majority of people seem to still equate online dating with desperate, socially inept, or weirdos. I wonder if those people in the commercials doing their testimonials are real.

[PayBays]

I never went to such a site,but i do date via the internet.

I hate it to have so many people around me.I'm very shy and i usually can't speak with anyone.I'm happy Internet Dating exists...maybe i make an account somewhere

[Draven]

Yes, it's true that those forums are ideal for people who are shy... It's easier to communicate when the other doesn't see you blushing.

[Le Fidèle]

its easer to type, that actually confront the other person. . .

i mean, the least you could do is after you meet this person online (if they dont live far) call them! cause that way, if you guys have nothing to talk about then its not ment to be. but online, all you have to do is BRB, and thats when you think of somthing to say back to the person :roll:

[Ned]

its easer to type, that actually confront the other person. . .

i mean, the least you could do is after you meet this person online (if they dont live far) call them! cause that way, if you guys have nothing to talk about then its not ment to be. but online, all you have to do is BRB, and thats when you think of somthing to say back to the person :roll:
Ofc it's easier to type then talk face to face. That's why these online dating sites've been built. But come to think of it, shy people should consider loosing their shyness because when they will have an actual real relationship they will have to talk, therefore to comunicate if they want the relationship to last. So it's like defeating their worst nightmare, or fear. It will be much easier for them to comunicate, after a couple of dates (or more, like three, even) with the person they met online.

[Greenie]

hm... my opinion... it's hard to say about it all... well.. .sometimes I am sure you can meet your "other half" but it is almost impossible... but who knows...
SHIT... I lost my train of thought :mad: SHIT... I'm sorry guyz...

[Draven]

^ Don't panic... it happens to us all sometimes.. you'll get over it I'm sure

[Le Fidèle]

sometimes i believe in the theory that every one has their twin, or almost exact look-a-like.

i'd like to find that person :wink:

[PayBays]

^

I have found him............and her

I have found an exact inside copy of me in a girl,and an outside copy ( 100% the same ) at my school

[Le Fidèle]

lol, i dont mean peronality. . . i mean physical aperance. . .

if thats what you meant, will you take a picture?




o yeah, i found tims twin!!!
my friend looks just like him, and i posted a picture too, i'll post them later.

[Draven]

It would be scary if you one day would dump into somebody who looks just like you... What would you say to him/her? :roll:

[Ned]

It would be scary if you one day would dump into somebody who looks just like you... What would you say to him/her? :roll:
I would probably say: "Hey, nice to meet me!" :lol:

[MightyMaréchal]

its kind of wierd..but I really dont have any worry about it..

[Beanie]

When I first got the net I went on a forum and I talked to this girl once just kinda friendly, then we started pming, then talking on msn, we just kinda flirted, then she started getting all heavy and wanting to move to my country and live with me and get all hooked up and shit when I told her I wasn't serious about her she got all weird and crazy started saying people in her family were dying to make me feel bad, when I didn't she told me she was dying and that she needed me, f**k that shit! In the end I changed my address.
I never talked to people I don't know again.
This is why I opted for option B.
To be honest the only reason people date on the net is because they don't know how to date in real life. My friend started dating on the net and ended up in a horrible relationship being beaten. If a person is that nice then they don't need the net to find people. I find it's just full of crazy people or people with no social skills.
But hey it's up to you what you do. Just letting you know.

[MightyMaréchal]

sounds ....like a good story heh..

never tried dating online..

How does it work ?? :cheesy:

[Melodramatic]

Yes, there are some people who are weird like that person you described above. I suppose romancing somebody online can augment that euphoric effect & can even trigger the crazy side of people. I think a week limit until the actual meeting would suffice instead of months & years.

[Orion]

sometimes i believe in the theory that every one has their twin, or almost exact look-a-like.

i'd like to find that person :wink:

damn, the other day I saw this person that looked exactly like my friend's wife . . . she was a twin, I tell you. I almost greeted her I was so fooled . . . but I still wonder if it was her . . . that's how much see resembled her . . . When I see her I am going to tell her, and she won't believe me how much they resemble each other . . . I am still shocked

So, I believe that we all might just have a twin, but not exactly a twin of the opposite sex . . . except for the exact same personality (I've seen that :wink: ) . . . heck even twins of the opposite sex are possible in this world . . . it's amazing . . . and I am an eyewitness to this type of phenomena

[YCZ]

Le Fidèle wrote:
sometimes i believe in the theory that every one has their twin, or almost exact look-a-like.

i'd like to find that person

off topic here, but anyone saw the video shake by ying yang twins? at begining one of the dancer looks like a black Hilary Duff.